Most of you reading this article have probably heard of positive affirmations, and many of you have probably used them. For those of you who have used I am betting the results were at best rather mixed.
Yes affirmation do work if repeated often enough and for long enough but they’re really not that powerful.
Affirmation can work and do work give enough time but there are the horse and cart of the positive thinking world and I would like to introduce you to formula one.
The problem with affirmations is they are only statement and until your mind accepts them as statement of fact they have very little power. Now while it’s that if you repeat almost anything with emotion often enough you will eventually belief it. There is however a much more powerful method.
Questions, positive affirmative questions to be precise. The difference between statement and questions is profound. Using positive affirmative statement (P.A.S) you are simply trying to convince yourself that something is true, when more often than not it’s not. By using positive affirmative questions you are telling your brain to focus on the solution and reprogramming it to seek and belief in the positive.
Here’s some examples:
I feel good
I feel good about myself
How can I feel good about myself?
Why do I feel good myself
I like myself
I like myself just the way I am
What do I like about myself?
What can I change about myself so I like myself more?
I am successful
I am successful just the way I am
Why am I successful
What can I do to make myself more successful?
I hope you can see the difference between the two. Let’s look at some of the differences in detail.
Saying I feel good or I feel good about me can be effective if there’s some truth in the statement. If you already feel good or at least okay the positive statements will reinforce and heighten the good feeling.
If your feeling bad or depressed you will struggle to change your mood simply by repeating I feel good, because you trying to convince your mind of something it knows is not true. Have you ever tried to change someone’s beliefs just by repeatedly stating the opposite it’s hard work.
The P.A.Q.s are much more powerful when you ask yourself "how can I feel good about myself" your not trying to convince yourself of something you know is not true. Instead you’re asking your mind to look for the positive this will quickly change your focus and is the quickest to change your feeling from bad to good.
The very P.A.Q. "why do I feel good about myself" is especially powerful because not only is it a question programming your mind to seek out reason to feel good but also contains the positive statement I feel good myself.
Another P.A.S. from above is "I am successful just the way I am" The dangerous thing about this is you might actually success in making yourself belief it. Once you belief in such a statement your stuck because it takes away your motivation and drive. If you are convinced your successful just the way you are you have no reason to better yourself and move forward.
The P.A.Q. "What can I do to make myself more successful" Does the exact opposite. Firstly by the clever use of the word more it’s telling your mind that you are already a success then it’s programming your mind to focus on using it’s enormous power to find and use ways to become even more successful.
This is a very powerful affirmation while the first is at best a weak substitute and at worse a somewhat negative statement.
I hope you can see the difference between statements questions when it comes to affirmations and if you try the former I hope you give the power of question a try.
Ask yourself "What powerful questions can I ask myself today to change my life for the better?"